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While it may seem hopeless at the moment, there are ways that you can make your ex want you back - in fact, if you do it right, they will not be able to resist. It all comes down to understanding and taking advantage of the opportunities available to you after a breakup. Yes, you do have opportunities, whether you think so or not.
One of the first things you will need to do, however, is come to terms with the breakup. If you were dumped, accept the fact that it has happened and take whatever time you need to heal. You have just suffered a loss and it is natural to grieve. The only rule you need to follow at this point in time is to make absolutely sure that you do not contact him / her. You are in a very fragile state and any contact would be counter productive right now.
Next, you need to understand that you will never get anywhere unless you get some of that psychological power back. Yes, it is true that after a breakup, one partner will have a distinct psychological advantage over the other - usually, it's the person who did the dumping.
If you start contacting your ex in an effort to "fix" the situation and get things back to the way they were, it will only make a bad situation worse. With every gesture you make, you will be giving away even more power to them. Occasionally, you may come off as nothing more than a nuisance and they will quickly tire of your desperate attempts to reconcile.
And this is where you should start to turn things around.
You need to take a little wind out of their sails, so to speak. One of the best ways to do this is to refuse to give in to your urges to contact them. This is exactly what they are expecting. Instead, simply contact your ex and tell them that you agree with the breakup and you wish them the best. This one act will start your campaign in motion in a big way. It will absolutely throw a wrench in the works like nothing else.
From here on out, you must not let your true feelings show. If your ex suspects that it is all an act for their benefit, then you will lose all credibility. Make sure they see you enjoying life and carrying on as though nothing has happened. Surround yourself with friends, go out on the town, do things that you could not do as a couple. And make sure your ex sees it.
In fact, you can make very good use of this time by doing some self-improvement. Take up a new hobby, go back to school, grab that new promotion, or take that dream vacation you've always wanted. This will have a dual effect - not only will you actually be doing something good for yourself, but you will be sending a clear message to him / her that you are doing just fine on your own.
Your number one goal here is to do all this while making it seem as natural as possible. You definitely do not want to seem as though you are playing mind games.
If you are able to pull this off convincingly, you may find that your ex starts showing a much more humble side. Having all that power taken away is sobering and they may actually start thinking about what they truly miss.
It's important at this stage that you take things slow and not appear too eager. Keep any meetings and phone calls short. Make it look like you always have somewhere to be. Avoid telling them how much you miss them, or that you still love them. The longer you can keep this up, the more your ex is going to want you back. We all want what we can not have - it is simple human nature.
You can definitely make your ex want you back - it is simply a matter of understanding what emotional buttons to push. Take the road less traveled, fight those emotional urges and have him / her come crawling back to you.
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